Many millennials communicate primarily by text which makes communication effortless. Unfortunately, it also makes it less meaningful when you’re trying to get to know someone and figure out if they like you and how much: the stuff that matters most in dating. How significant is a regular “Good morning, gorgeous” text from a guy who never calls to talk to you?
How significant is a regular “Good morning, gorgeous” text from a guy who never calls to talk to you?
6 Reasons Why Talking Trumps Texting When You’re Getting to Know a Guy
1. Texts don’t paint an accurate picture when you’re trying to get to know someone as a person.
Texts don’t provide any facial expression, tone of voice, or conversational rhythm to help give the words context. They’re like a bony skeleton, and your mind gets to fill in the rest. Don’t get caught up in the details. Texts are a better reflection of the texter’s ability to edit and use emojis than of who they are as a person.
Texts are a better reflection of the texter’s ability to edit and use emojis than of who they are as a person.
2. Texting + Feminine Overthink = Inappropriate Brain Preoccupation
Our feminine tendency to overanalyze communications goes into overdrive when we try to uncover the “actual” meanings of the words. (Like I said before, with us gals, there are words and then there’s the actual meaning behind the words.) They let a guy be as vague as he wants to be which lures you into parsing, re-reading, and sending texts to friends for decoding. Important or emotional issues should be discussed, as in a conversation. They cannot be done justice by texts, or else you may end up feeling worse.
The lull between texts is no fun, especially if you’re still trying to figure out if he likes you and how much. We’re understandably tempted to judge his feelings about us by his texting frequency. The problem with this is most guys don’t put aside their daily activities to nurse your texting needs. He’s got a life; he’s trying to live it. Follow suit. If you see he’s read the text but he doesn’t respond, what the heck is a brain to do except become anxious and insecure? Reclaim your brain! Turn off your read receipts. Sign off after texting and let him know you’re going back to your real life activities…how about talking on the phone later?
Coming up next week-4 more reasons why conversation is key when building relationships.
What’s your take on texting vs. talking in the early dating stages? Share in the comments!