6 Reasons Talking beats Texting in Budding Relationships- Pt 2

6 Reasons talking beats texting in developing relationships

One reason I think relationships are so elusive these days is that more people try to use texts to get them started. And worse, they actually view them as equivalent to oral communication.

This means if you’ve never met in person, you’re depending on the written word to display your charisma and hoping they fall for your texts, instead of your amazing personality. How fair is that?

This means if you’ve never met in person, you’re depending on the written word to display your charisma and hoping they fall for your texts, instead of your amazing personality. How fair is that?

Here’s the continuation of last week’s list.

6 Reasons Talking beats Texting in Budding Relationships Pt 2

 

3. You can weed out guys who just want a “textationship.”

These are relationships born and nurtured solely through messages and texts over weeks, months, and even years. These texting pals might end up as friends, but they can waste your time, energy, and emotions if a real-life relationship is what you want. They could also be complete and utter catfish.

Plus, the emotional connection developed through these textationships can end up being a fake standard by which you compare the men you come across in real life! No one’s going to be able to compete with your fantasy man.

Fantasy man via GIPHY

 

4. There’s no opportunity to observe him

Nothing beats personal interaction for assessing chemistry and seeing how a guy relates with you and others in various situations. Texting provides an isolated one dimensional view, cocooned from reality.

5. Texting can divert you from his lack of deeper interest

Texts are the lowest form of communication effort. They aren’t substitutes for the time and effort that truly show how invested a guy is. If that’s primarily how you’re communicating, you’re not going deep-and he may want it that way. Texting doesn’t tell us the things that really count about someone—except maybe a lack of interest if you’re the one initiating them.

totem pole of relationship effort with texting on the bottom, talking on the phone in the middle and speaking face to face on top

6. Constant texting (textathons) can be a turn off

Beware textathons, especially when you haven’t even met in person. This when you’re shiny, bright and new. Communication saturation can eat away at the sense of novelty that surrounds you. Let him feel the urge to take it offline in order to learn more. Textathons can also repel him if he gets the impression you’re the kind of woman who needs his contact all through the day to feel good.

 

Texting is great, don’t get me wrong, but not in building relationships. As a general rule, save all sensitive, important, or emotional conversations for face-to-face. You’ll get more of the answers you’re looking for through conversation and won’t fall prey to interpreting texts according to the way you feel as opposed to what was intended. Try and save the texts for arranging the logistics of meeting up in real life and for checking in during the workday.

Your turn!

Have you had success starting a real life relationship mainly through texting? Share your experience and tips in the comments!

Ciao,

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